“How did you do it?” is the first thing almost everybody asks when they learn I’ve lost so much weight.
I used to say I lost the weight low carbing.
They almost always come back and tell me about their sister, brother, niece, accountant, friend, who lost weight doing low carb. That’s what they call it “doing low carb.” Then they tell me, “Yeah, but it didn’t work and they gained the weight back.”
Sometimes, they tell me about themselves.
They say, “I did low carb and it was really hard. I couldn’t stick to it. I love food: bread, beer, pasta, Coke, [insert carb here] too much to give it up forever. What’s life for? You gotta enjoy it while you can and I love my [insert carb here].”
Today, when people ask me how I lost over a hundred pounds, I tell them I changed how I think.
They narrow their eyes a bit and cock their heads to the side a little when I give them that answer. Some people ask me more questions, but most people just change the subject.
Generally, we all want instant easily digestible solutions to the problems that routinely plague us, and evidently, thinking on purpose isn’t one of those easy solutions.
“Really? So, how did you lose it?”
It was hard. That’s how it was. I struggled and criticized myself. I wondered what I did wrong. I fretted about what was broken in me. I thought about my dysfunctional adrenal glands. I dreamt of a day when my metabolism would be healed. I read book after book, combed the Internets, and experimented with my body.
I worked hard to lose weight. I forced it. I made it happen out of shear willpower. I did the extreme in the name of weight loss and I fasted for 21 days to see what would happen. The moment I backed off from the fight, the weight started creeping back up. It was slow and insidious. Sometimes, I watched petrified I didn’t have the strength to stop it.
Losing weight is not the problem. The problem is we put it back on.
Just about anyone can lose weight if they cut some carbs out of their diet. For that matter, just about anybody can lose weight doing Weight Watchers, the Zone, or the only-eat-bananas diet. You can lose weight by drinking expensive smoothies or eating fancy bars and packaged food you add water to and nuke in the microwave. I did and then I put the weight back on.
Forcing weight loss with willpower is not a permanent solution. Check yourself into a hospital, get hooked up to an IV, and stop eating for 30 days and you’ll be a hell of lot lighter. Losing weight is not the problem. Just read this about The Biggest Loser contestants.
Did you know that only about 2% of people who lose weight keep it off?
This is why the weight loss, health and exercise industries are so huge. We lose weight and then we put it back on, over and over. Think about this, how many people do you know who’ve had bariatric surgery, lost tons of weight, and over time, put it back on? We keep looking for the next exercise routine, the next pill, and the next diet that will work.
If you want to stop losing and gaining, losing and gaining, you have to change the thoughts you think.
When my doctor told me I needed surgery to fix my back, I didn’t want to go under the knife. He told me another option was to lose weight and see if my back would get better. If I wanted to take the wait and see route, he’d be happy to do the surgery when I couldn’t stand the pain any longer.
You see, most doctors tell their patients to lose weight to feel better, but they don’t believe their patients will actually do it. That’s why they resort to giving us pills and surgery. They honestly want their patients to get better, but they know most people won’t do the mental work in order to do it.
Frankly, most people are happy with pills and surgery because it’s easy. Many people give power over their health, to a bottle of medication they wouldn’t need, if they took responsibility for the choices they made.
Looking back, on one hand, I realize the enormous denial I had about what was going on and how huge I had gotten. On the other hand, denial was probably the one thing keeping me afloat. I was trapped in the muck of depression, barely able to move.
There I was. My back was screwed up, and although I was super fat before I hurt my back, I was able to walk and sit for more than five minutes without excruciating pain. I wanted that life back.
I made my choice. I decided to lose weight.
“When you look in the mirror, don’t you see how fat you are?”
Somebody actually asked me this question.
The truth is, I really didn’t see myself. I only looked at my eyes because I liked my eyes. I think they’re gorgeous and I’ve always thought so. The rest of me was blurry, sort of out of focus, and I didn’t acknowledge it. I didn’t pay attention to anything from the neck down.
It was a protective defensive mechanism, I think.
On the occasion I did look, I’d feel even more horrible and depressed. And angry. And powerless.
I would beat myself up.
There was no compassion or love for myself.
When you are nearly 200 pounds overweight, being normal weighted is something out of reach for most people. Normal weighted seems impossible.
I have been super morbidly obese. I have been morbidly obese. I have been just plain obese. That’s where I am now. Eight more pounds and I will be overweight and I’m so excited and proud. I’ve made it to overweightness. It’s an accomplishment and I’m celebrating it.
The other day I put on a jacket and it fit perfectly. I turned to my husband and said, “Bill, look. I’m normal sized!” It still seems like a miracle to me.
So what is a low carb mindset, you might wonder.
I learned the size of my body is an outward manifestation of what I’m thinking and decreasing the carbs in my diet is the pathway to metabolic health.
Cutting carbs is the how you lose weight part. Changing your brain is the how to keep it off part. Together, you get a low carb mindset.
How many carbs to cut is completely up to the individual and it’s not the same for everyone. Whichever eating plan you choose, it has to work for you and your body. There are so many options out there. Just pick one and go with it. I can help you out, if you’d like.
I’m a low carb expert and there’s plenty of us on the Internets and in book stores. We can help you lose weight. Hell, you can do it without anyone’s help and there’s tons of information and free support out there to get you started.
How do you change your brain?
That’s my forte. My mission is to help women understand their thoughts and beliefs are the key to permanent weight loss success. I help women stop dieting and start living.
We’ve told ourselves if we were only skinnier we’d be happy and fabulous. We think losing weight will make us feel better.
I teach women how to feel whatever it is they want to feel right here, right now. When they do, they lose weight easily and effortlessly, without struggle, without fighting and without using willpower.
But there’s a catch. For this to work, they have to know what they want. I help with that as well.
So many of us don’t know what we want. We only know what we’ve got ain’t it.
Being thin doesn’t guarantee happiness. Happy happens because you create it. It’s amazing.
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